The best podcast I heard this week was Episode #179 of the Tim Ferriss Show: “What’s Important to You?” This episode was not your typical Tim Ferriss Show format, in which he interviews a world class performer. Instead, Tim chose to share an audio chapter from Ryan Holiday’s new book, “Ego is the Enemy”.

Tim Ferriss Show Episode #179 - What's Important to You?

I have not read “Ego is the Enemy” yet, but I have definitely been curious about it. Ryan’s last book, “The Obstacle is the Way” which I reviewed HERE, was a fantastic read. Have you read it? I think it could be a slam dunk college graduation gift for a young person just starting out.

The chapter of “Ego” we get to listen to is titled, “What’s Important to You?” It’s read by Ryan Holiday himself. One of my favorite aspects of his last book is how Holiday weaves history into all of his chapters. It seems he carried the same approach over to “Ego”. To set up his point, he starts the chapter comparing the lives of Ulysses S. Grant and William Tecumseh Sherman after the Civil War. Both generals were in a position to do as they wanted after the war, yet they took completely different paths. One led a fulfilled life of purpose, the other went seeking “more”. These paths led each man to massively different levels of contentment.

Holiday uses this comparison to dive into the reasons we must figure out what is important to us. And by us, I mean you and only you. How often do you find yourself wanting to do something because someone else is doing it? Or because it is the expected course? This is a surefire way to never feel satisfied. You can see the implications of saying yes based on someone else’s values and desires. According to Holiday:

“We say “yes” because we don’t want to miss out. We think yes will help us accomplish more, when it actually prevents what we actually seek.” 

In other words, identify what is important to YOU and you will have a roadmap for your life’s journey. From there, you can make decisions based on your unique destination. It should become easier to ignore what the pack is doing. You can start saying “yes” only to the things that will get you closer to your goals.

Ryan Holiday's Ego is the Enemy on the Tim Ferriss Show

Author Ryan Holiday

This Tim Ferriss Show podcast episode is short and sweet. Maybe 12 minutes or so of the actual content once you get through sponsorship talk at the beginning and end. To skip the sponsors and get straight to the content, fast forward to the 4 1/2 minute mark. Listen to it HERE. And let me know what you think!

And if you would like other podcast episode recommendations, find them HERE.

One thing I have learned through years of poring over design magazines and blogs is how big a role styling plays in the feel of a home. You can style pretty much any little nook and cranny and instantly make it look more appealing: a coffee table, dresser, kitchen counter, bedside table, desk. Today I am going to share some of the styling tips and takeaways I have learned along my quest to improve my own styling abilities.

Let’s start with a few examples of some very well styled spaces so you can see some styling done right.

All these gorgeous spaces did not come together by accident. And although the structure of the room may be nice, and the furniture beautiful, it is the styling that gives each their “wow” factor.

Basic Styling Elements

After “studying” styling for a while now, I have been able to identify a few elements that keep popping up. Shelves and built-ins are a good place to start because they can make such a difference when done well. Here are some basic elements to consider before tackling your shelves or built-ins.

  • Breathing room
  • Greenery
  • Leaned art
  • Sculptural objects
  • Stacked books
  • Varying heights

Let’s take a look at a few bookshelves and built-ins so you can see how these different elements keep popping up:

You can also carry over the same elements to a freestanding shelving unit. Here’s an example from Ballard Designs. Everything’s there except for the leaning art which would fall 🙂

Those examples are all for shelving situations. There are definitely tweaks and slightly different approaches if you take on a different surfaces, like a bedroom dresser or a bathroom counter, for example. But I guarantee you if you start here, everything else will start to fall into place.

Here are a few other pieces of advice if you would like to tackle a styling project in your home.

Styling Tips & Takeaways:

  • Take everything off and start with a clean slate. Don’t try rearranging what you have while it is still on the shelf. You’ll be able to make much better judgements, plus identify which pieces are not working.
  • Do not feel like you need to use and display all your stuff. Just because you have it, don’t force it. You will most likely need to leave some of your items off the shelf. Remember that breathing room is important.
  • On the other hand, if you do not have one of the elements, you may want to pick some up. Most of us tend to buy and accumulate the same type of stuff. Maybe you have too many picture frames. Or a bunch of small figurines. If that is the case, you may need to pick up some key elements and drop some of your existing things.
  • Keep an eye out for good, hardcover coffee table books. As we’ve seen in the sample photos, books are great for adding interest and especially for stacking. Old paperback novels won’t do the trick. So keep an eye out for nice, large coffee table books.

Speaking of good hardcover books, you might as well order this one. It is by the master of styling, Emily Henderson. I have been reading her blog which is an incredible resource for learning how to style for years now. So when she came out with this book last year, I bought it right away. If you want a more in-depth look at the “how to” behind styling your spaces, this is the book you want. Plus, don’t think she didn’t go with that beautiful gold spine so that it would look good “stacked”.

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I hope seeing the common threads in a few well styled spaces was helpful to you. Now it’s time to choose a little styling project in your home!

If you liked this little design lesson, you might also like my posts on Mixing Styles, Adding Black and White and Finding Balance.

Do you watch any shows on YouTube? Since we got rid of cable several years ago, I rarely watch any television. We have Apple TV and Netflix, which allows us to rent movies for family movie nights. But when it comes to spontaneous TV watching, it just doesn’t happen much any more. Until recently, when I started picking up the iPad for some YouTube viewing. I know I’m late to the party (what’s new?), but I have really been enjoying some of the great content I’ve been finding on YouTube. Today I thought I would share what I’m watching lately.

Current YouTube Favorites
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TED-Ed

The TED-Ed YouTube channel is our night-time go-to with the kids when we are in the mood for something other than a book. They have short, animated videos on any subject you could possibly imagine or be curious about. Because they are animated and no longer than 5 minutes long, it keeps our attention and we learn something new with each video. We each get a turn to choose one that is interesting to us. The subjects are limitless! Just yesterday (I promise with no prompting), Ben busted out with, “I love TED Ed. We learn stuff and it’s not boring!” If I was a teacher, I would totally have my students pick one to watch every day. The fact is, kids learn when they are engaged and interested. And I will take a few minutes of engaged learning any way I can get it. Here are a few we have liked:

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30 Days of Genius with Chase Jarvis

Chase Jarvis is a professional photographer and the creator of Creative LIVE, an online education website I wrote about HERE. I stumbled upon the “30 Days of Genius” series on the Chase Jarvis LIVE channel when I searched “Tim Ferriss” on YouTube one day. I value Tim’s podcast so much that when I was looking for something interesting to watch, I knew anything with Tim on it would be good. That’s when I came across Tim’s interview with Chase on the “30 Days” series. The series is the equivalent of having 30 in-depth mentorship sessions. If you have a young adult in your life, I cannot tell you how invaluable it would be for them to watch these. I have not finished all of them yet, but I am savoring them slowly. Here are a few I recommend you start with:

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Jess Lively VLOG

Jess Lively may sound familiar to you because I’ve mentioned her in the past as the hosts one of my favorite podcasts, “The Lively Show”. She has had some incredible guests and interviews. Jess is also the creator of the “Life With Intention” course I took a while back.  She has recently dipped her toe into the vlogging world on YouTube. In case you’re wondering, vlogging is basically blogging in video form. Since I know I enjoy her content and view on the world, I was curious to check out her YouTube channel. Here are some of the vlogs I’ve enjoyed and you might too:

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Vivianna Does Makeup

If you know me, this is probably the most surprising YouTube series I am into. It surprises me too. First, I barely ever wear makeup or do my hair. I do not spend much on anything beauty or fashion related because I would way rather spend it on stuff for the home. YET, I can’t get enough of this girl. Which goes to show that quality content is good no matter the topic. Anna, the girl behind the Vivianna Does Makeup channel, is incredibly charming, likable and down-to-earth. She is British, so perhaps the accent has something to do with it. Anna has a gift for sharing interesting tidbits about her daily life shot in a beautiful, well-lit way. Maybe I will pick up a few good beauty habits along the way 😉 Here are a couple episodes to get you started:

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Studio McGee House to Home Series

Studio McGee is one of the most buzzed about design studios in the country right now. I am a huge fan of their work. Apparently, they had been in talks with a well-known home and garden TV network to create a new show. According to the McGees, it didn’t work out due to conflicts around the vision. But instead of putting the idea to rest, they decided to try producing a few episodes themselves. Gotta love the freedom that the Internet provides. No longer do you need permission from a big TV network to get your work out into the world. So that is what Shea and Sid did. The first two episodes of the House to Home series were very good. Especially the “Before and After” featured on episode 2. I have a feeling each episode will just keep getting better as they start to improve the production. If you are into home design and good before and afters, check out their first two episodes:

Do you have any favorite channels or content on YouTube? Please pass along any fun recommendations!

The best podcast I listened to this week was Episode 202 of Magic Lessons with Elizabeth Gilbert. In fact, this particular podcast episode is probably my favorite in a long time. Friend, you have to listen to this episode as soon as possible. It was that good.

Brandon Stanton on Magic Lessons Podcast

The Magic Lessons podcast is an extension of Elizabeth Gilbert’s phenomenal book, Big Magic, which I reviewed HERE. I also declared it one of my favorite books of 2015.

In each Magic Lessons episode, Liz Gilbert has a one-on-one phone call with a person who is struggling with a creative pursuit. After diving into the person’s history and more details, Liz then reaches out to a successful creative in that field to help give this person advice & homework. The episode closes out with Liz checking back in to see how things are working out for the struggling creative.

On this particular episode, Liz talks to Anne, a photographer in Pennsylvania. Anne is struggling to decide whether she should pursue a personal and painful photo project. It’s a subject she has been photographing for years (her brother). She is unsure as to where to go next with it. Liz and Anne quickly come to the conclusion that Anne is lacking the confidence to continue this project.

After speaking to Anne, Liz calls Brandon Stanton for insight that might help Anne push through her barriers. This is where it gets GOOD. Real good. Brandon Stanton is the creator of the life-affirming, mind-opening experiment called Humans of New York (HONY). Among a sea of content on the internet, HONY continues to make me stop in my tracks every single day. Seeing him speak at the University of Florida last December was one of the highlights of my year. As you might imagine, my ears perked up big-time when one of my favorite authors calls one of my biggest heroes.

Brandon’s words of wisdom for Anne did not disappoint. If you are not interested in hearing about Anne’s journey, you can fast forward to the 25:00 minute mark of the episode to jump right into his advice. Which, in case you were wondering, is 100% applicable to everyone, not just Anne.

Magic Lessons from Brandon Stanton:

Confidence is a learned skill. Brandon starts out by pointing out that people feel like confidence is something that you either have or you don’t. That you need to have confidence before you can do something brave. But that’s not the right mindset. Brandon shares, “The way to learn confidence is to be afraid of something. And do it anyway…You have to begin before you are ready.” It’s by doing the hard things that you gain the confidence you seek.

Time is the most important commodity we have. Brandon uses his own life as a perfect example for this point. He always knew he wanted to do something where he would use his creativity. But he thought he needed to get a “real” job and make money first. Then, once he had enough money, he could pursue what he really wanted to do. He spent two years stressed out and trading bonds in this pursuit. And then he lost his job. He had zero money to show for it, and had lost two years of his life. That was the moment when he decided to pick up his camera and make just enough money to control his own time moving forward.

Make plans that you can control. If you are in pursuit of a creative project or path, the key is to focus on what you can control. Not what is out of your control. If your goal is to make X amount of dollars, get a certain number of followers, etc., then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, Brandon recommends taking your HUGE dreams and narrowing them down into bite-size attainable actions. In Anne’s case, that was spending one hour a day on her project. Could she do that? Yes. Once you are accomplishing what you set out to do, the final product will start to be dictated by the work. Genius.

I honestly thought my head would explode listening to this episode. Brandon’s advice is so spot-on. If you have any inclination to do any creative work (not necessarily professionally), do yourself a huge favor and listen to this episode. If you are a parent, I would also recommend listening to it to help giving you perspective on encouraging your children.

Listen to this episode HERE. To see more favorite podcast episode recommendations HERE.

You are in for a treat today with today’s home tour. Do you remember Tracy’s home that we featured in June? Well, when Tracy told me that she had a friend who’s home she loved, I was all ears. With that recommendation in hand, I reached out to Susie and she graciously agreed to let me come for a visit.

As soon as I stepped inside Susie’s welcoming home, I knew it was a fantastic choice. She blends modern with traditional to create a look that is very personal to her family. I am in disbelief that they moved in only a little over a year ago. The house already feels so layered and welcoming. What really popped out at me during my visits was the artwork in Susie’s home. There were interesting pieces everywhere I looked. The effect is a well-curated space with endless nooks to explore and appreciate.

As I peppered Susie with all kinds of questions about where she got this piece or that piece, it became clear that she has a true passion for collecting meaningful work and bringing it into her home. And when she can’t find just the right artwork for a spot? She just paints it herself! Or she commissions a piece from one of her daughters who also is a gifted artist. Obviously the eye for design runs in the family.

I hope you enjoy this home tour and getting to know Susie!

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Who lives in this home and how did you come to live here? How did you know it was the right choice for your family? I live here with my husband, Randy, our youngest daughter Julia, and our three dogs. When our older two daughters left for college it became apparent that we needed to live in a space that brought the three of us a bit closer together. We still have rooms for our daughters that live away. But a more compact space feels better. Also, I love a new project!

Tell us about the process of renovating your home. When I first saw this house I knew that the layout would be great for our transitioning family. The house already had great bones so we just made cosmetic changes that suit our style. The house was built in the 80’s so there were quite a few simple updates, like removing an obsolete intercom system, that helped modernize it a bit. The previous owners had installed some really nice mouldings so paint was our most utilized tool. An updated master bath, a breakfast room and a large porch were the biggest projects.

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Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

What is your approach to decorating? Where do you like to start? When I approach a new decorating project I think it’s most important to let the space and function dictate where to go. Decorating has to evolve for me. I don’t have the vision to see the finished project. So after I get an idea of color and a general layout, I start filling in the gaps.

Where do you find home inspiration and ideas? I am a design magazine addict. I pour over every issue and some ideas speak to me and I keep them with me (in my head). I stop by the library sometimes to peruse their copies. Also, I spend way too much time on Houzz and Pinterest.

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Which room in your home do you enjoy the most? The “room” I enjoy most is the large porch we added. When the weather is comfortable (and even when it’s not) we spend lots of time out there. We have meals or watch the evening news. It’s a great place to make a phone call or hang out while the dogs get some outdoor time. I especially enjoy the porch swing.

You have an incredible art collection. What is your approach to buying art? I love all kinds of art and have for a long time. I started collecting art before I started buying furniture. The pieces I have come from a number of places. And each one has a story. Some are hand-me-downs, some are thrift bargains, some I’ve done myself, but most come from art shows. I’ve been a part of FAFO (Fine Arts For Ocala) for a long time. I love the chance to participate in events that bring joy to the community. I also think it’s great to give people the chance to add beautiful pieces to their homes, and artists have a platform for getting their work to the public.

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

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What are some of your favorite places to shop for your home? I shop at the usual haunts. I like West Elm and Restoration Hardware. Anyone that knows me knows I love a bargain. I’m always on the hunt or looking for a way to achieve a look for less. I love thrift shops, Homegoods, and various on-line sites. There’s no limit to my bargain shopping. My breakfast room table is from the Salvation Army Thrift Store and I got a large mango wood console in my living room from Sam’s. My one dumpster dive reaped a depression era, home crafted cedar chest that still looks great. It’s all about the hunt.

Do you have any tips for someone that would like to paint a piece of furniture? If someone is considering painting a piece of furniture, I’d say go for it! Sometime it’s better to give new life to a piece that you might not be too crazy about, or maybe received from a family member. I try not to be too sentimental about possessions. Do your homework. So many of the paint products on the market are idiot-proof and I’m here to prove it. Also, don’t be afraid to paint stained trim in your home. Often, it can really bring a space a new, fresh look.

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

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Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and InWhat is one piece of advice you would give someone who feels stuck in a rut with home decor?  If you’re looking for a boost to make changes to your home, design magazines are the place to start. Tear out pictures of rooms you like and try to identify what part of it appeals to you. Keep a scrapbook and hone the look you’re trying to achieve. Houzz.com is a great resource for collecting ideas as well.

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

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Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Curated Home Tour - The Outside and In

Isn’t it inspiring?!? Thank you, Susie, for sharing your insight, talent and letting us “step inside”!

If you enjoyed this “Step Inside” home tour series, check out more HERE.

Photography: Ale Cretul